I am writing this special blog exclusively for something I am very bothered and unhappy about. Its my aunties. They always take things for granted. Especially my mum. My Mum, always the cook, the caregiver, the 1 who will remember to buy prayer items, prayer dates and everything for my father's side family. She is those traditional type of woman who believes that all these are duties of a good daughter in law. Every time there's any occasion, like who's bd, grandparent's bd, ancestor death anniversary, she will be the one who have to put aside whatever is on her schedule and cook @ my grandma's place. Its not a small family. Any how there will be 30 people coming for lunch or dinner. When my auntie was diagnosed with cancer abt 3 years back, my mum was the 1 who always took leave to bring her to her chemo session. My family are taotist. They belive that the anulets from the temple will help to cure my auntie. So every friday my mum will, WITHOUT FAIL, go to the temple to collect the amulets for her. The temple starts the prayer @ night, so my mum will go @ 8 then come hm abt 11. This arrangement have also been going on for like a year plus. My Mum has got high blood pressure which means that if she don't sleep well @ night she will feel giddy and headache the next day. And she frequently has that because she worrys about everything. My grandplarent's PUB bill, my auntie's cancer, my brother in Doha.. a lot n a lot.. and when she told my cancer auntie she not feeling well, what she get? sacarstic remarks. She say my mum deserve it lah, who ask her don't sleep lah. And then she went on to say my mum leg pain walk with a limp still wanna go here go there ( She was talking about my mum going to those outing on Sat). She just says all these in front of me eh! I was so furious! I mean my mum have to cook dinner @ my grandma place everynight. Have to go to the temple every friday, what's wrong with her having some time for herself? My father married my mum, not buy her u know? She cannot go to her sister's celebration? What the hell? And my grandma got 3 daughter in law. Only my mum is working like slave for the family. I might as well spell it out here : My 3rd auntie only got time for her mum side of the family. Everytime ask her to bring my grandma or my auntie to the doctor, she will come out with all sorts of excuse, no time la, clean house la, kid go school la. And ask my uncle (her husband) to change his job from a well paying chef to a low income taxi driver just so that her own brothers can earn some extra income by shraring the taxi but not sharing the rent. And she make sure everyones knows that they are not to use her husband taxi for anything else unless we pay him. Not even allow the husband to send the sick sister (my cancer auntie) or my grandma to the hospital. She always say we take cab from the roadside also the same. Meaning? That even if we take my uncle cab she expect us to pay. But.. whenever HER mum need to go anywhere, my uncle is suppose to be @ their service. I mean do u have to have double standard until so much?! In the end my poor uncle have to secretly send my auntie or my grandma to see doctors without her knowing. Like thief like that. Really shit! My 4th auntie, her only responsibility is come, sit, watch tv, pack rice for her husband, eat, and go home. Own plate also don't wash. Every Sunday the same. So what she's working? My mum not tai tai ok? Everyone also got work but y is it my mum the only who got to slog even after work. and only to get thses kind of treant ment in the end? There are even more disgusting remarks my aunties have said of my mum but its going to be very very long story. My conclusion is that some people when they need u, they can call u mum call u dad. when they don't need u, u r just rubbish and rats. Really make me feel, is it worth it to treat people nice? When do they talk about behind yr back? Showing their gratitude? Nope, only taling bull shit. After much time thinking about it, I realise I know of another person who is like this also. This person is worst, use his bombastic english to hurl insults. Close friends will know who I talking about. At the end of the day, my Mum can still tell me what people wanna say. just let them, we know we have did what we should that's the most important. Is that true?