I am writing this special blog exclusively for something I am very bothered and unhappy about. Its my aunties. They always take things for granted. Especially my mum. My Mum, always the cook, the caregiver, the 1 who will remember to buy prayer items, prayer dates and everything for my father's side family. She is those traditional type of woman who believes that all these are duties of a good daughter in law. Every time there's any occasion, like who's bd, grandparent's bd, ancestor death anniversary, she will be the one who have to put aside whatever is on her schedule and cook @ my grandma's place. Its not a small family. Any how there will be 30 people coming for lunch or dinner. When my auntie was diagnosed with cancer abt 3 years back, my mum was the 1 who always took leave to bring her to her chemo session. My family are taotist. They belive that the anulets from the temple will help to cure my auntie. So every friday my mum will, WITHOUT FAIL, go to the temple to collect the amulets for her. The temple starts the prayer @ night, so my mum will go @ 8 then come hm abt 11. This arrangement have also been going on for like a year plus. My Mum has got high blood pressure which means that if she don't sleep well @ night she will feel giddy and headache the next day. And she frequently has that because she worrys about everything. My grandplarent's PUB bill, my auntie's cancer, my brother in Doha.. a lot n a lot.. and when she told my cancer auntie she not feeling well, what she get? sacarstic remarks. She say my mum deserve it lah, who ask her don't sleep lah. And then she went on to say my mum leg pain walk with a limp still wanna go here go there ( She was talking about my mum going to those outing on Sat). She just says all these in front of me eh! I was so furious! I mean my mum have to cook dinner @ my grandma place everynight. Have to go to the temple every friday, what's wrong with her having some time for herself? My father married my mum, not buy her u know? She cannot go to her sister's celebration? What the hell? And my grandma got 3 daughter in law. Only my mum is working like slave for the family. I might as well spell it out here : My 3rd auntie only got time for her mum side of the family. Everytime ask her to bring my grandma or my auntie to the doctor, she will come out with all sorts of excuse, no time la, clean house la, kid go school la. And ask my uncle (her husband) to change his job from a well paying chef to a low income taxi driver just so that her own brothers can earn some extra income by shraring the taxi but not sharing the rent. And she make sure everyones knows that they are not to use her husband taxi for anything else unless we pay him. Not even allow the husband to send the sick sister (my cancer auntie) or my grandma to the hospital. She always say we take cab from the roadside also the same. Meaning? That even if we take my uncle cab she expect us to pay. But.. whenever HER mum need to go anywhere, my uncle is suppose to be @ their service. I mean do u have to have double standard until so much?! In the end my poor uncle have to secretly send my auntie or my grandma to see doctors without her knowing. Like thief like that. Really shit! My 4th auntie, her only responsibility is come, sit, watch tv, pack rice for her husband, eat, and go home. Own plate also don't wash. Every Sunday the same. So what she's working? My mum not tai tai ok? Everyone also got work but y is it my mum the only who got to slog even after work. and only to get thses kind of treant ment in the end? There are even more disgusting remarks my aunties have said of my mum but its going to be very very long story. My conclusion is that some people when they need u, they can call u mum call u dad. when they don't need u, u r just rubbish and rats. Really make me feel, is it worth it to treat people nice? When do they talk about behind yr back? Showing their gratitude? Nope, only taling bull shit. After much time thinking about it, I realise I know of another person who is like this also. This person is worst, use his bombastic english to hurl insults. Close friends will know who I talking about. At the end of the day, my Mum can still tell me what people wanna say. just let them, we know we have did what we should that's the most important. Is that true?

Very busy this weekend.. as expected. Friday I went to collect the bean sprout pillow I have ordered for Edison and Melody. Actually wanted to meet LiLing. But she like sian sian so I decide to go shopping for The 2 birthday presents and also to find some thing to wrap the bean sprout pillows. Its very hard to find a gift box suitable for the size. I was thinking if really cannot find then just wrap with flower plastic paper. In the end I found the box @ Minitoons Bishan. Went to find Janice too and she told me there's a colleague trying to woo her. Haha.. Good la.. time for her find a bf too. Walk around J8 to find a suitable present for the 2 boys. wanted to buy clothes but worry they cannot wear. Buy books also like not suitable for them. So in the end bought 2 Winnie Pooh basketball set. leg wanna break liao. Reach hm just in time for Supernatural 2nd season. I missed my Chost Whisperer last episode!! So sad. Next Day went to baby Edison's full month celebration, Edmund and Cheng Cheng bd celebration. I have been getting more and more impatient lately. Especially @ my mum. Sometimes I feel like she really testing my patient. Like on Saturday, she knows we have got 2 places to go. And I was all ready by 11 am. I waited and waited but no call from her. So i called her @ 12 noon. She says she just came back from the market and going to meet me @ my grandma's place. Then I waited and waited again. 1.30 I decide to go over to my grandma place. 1st. By the time I reach there already 2 pm. Joash was very sleepy already so i put him to sleep. Mum arrive @ 3PM!! It was already half a day gone. Feel like wasted half a day just wating for her. I mean if u not intending to go so early, then tell me lah. I got ready so soon then just wait and wait. Very fed up 1 leh. Then call and call don't answer phone. Got patient also call until angry. In the end left my grandma place @ 4 Pm. Stayed @ Jane's place also a while only. Then took cab to Aunty Judy's place. Pack everyhing but forget the camera, so wasted. Jovel enjoyed herself alot with her buddies Kimberly, Alicia and Emily. I think Joash also quite enjoy cos a lot of children playing around him. Sunday brought Joash to Sengkang, left him there then went Whitelink to help give opinions for Xiang Wee's actual day gown. Jia Yan and Gerald came too. The 2 Lovey Dovey couple. Like bee and honey. Appoinment 3 Pm but waited for quite sometime then got a big fitting room for her. Seeing her remind me of myself when I was preparing for my wedding. She so slim every gown also can wear. Fat people like me choice always very limited. In the end she really choose 1 with a very very long train. Her dream gown. haha.. Then went to have dinner @ Arnolds @ City Plaza. We saw that gown again! The evening Gown I wanted to buy for my Xiang's wedding. Waiting to buy when get pay.