I am on a flat viewing spree!! View 2 flats on Mon with Irene, Kris and Mommy. 1 just next to my current blk and the other 1 is opposite the carpark

. Now all seller ask for cash for 2nd hand flat. And its like the amount is so HUGE!! SGD$15K - SGD$30K!! Gosh!! And some of them renovate the place, then they sell and they expect the next owner to pay for their renovation! So unfair right!! There was even this agent I called up, so stuck up, first thing he ask me is if I have enough cash. He says the owner renovated the place so I don't need to do anything. And asking for $30k cash!! And he says, if i don;t have the 30k then no need to waste time!! So rude right? I mean, why should I pay for the previous owner renovation. If I purchase the flat, the renovation should be consider 2nd hand and I have to pay 1st hand price? And things do depreciate! Should I say they are greedy or just so self centered?

Anyway I answer him that agents around my place are asking for 40k cash so I had prepared to pay that 40k provided I really like the house so much that I think its worth it. Must be more stuck up then him ma. This type of people want to sell flat but so "yaya" no need to be nice to them 1. But in the end I didn't even bother to go view his flat. See how long he take to sell his "gold house"

The 1st flat I went to view is just next to my parents in law blk. And same block as Irene!! Its quite low floor - 3rd storey only. Its an Indian family house. They have got 1 ceiling fan in each room and living room. Which make the ceiling look very low. And I think tall people wouldn't dare to come if I buy the place because they will need to bend their head down to prevent it from being chopped off. Haha!

And its quite run down. Will need a to renovate the whole house. Flooring also those old type of ceramic tiles. And toilets too, need to redo. Over all except for needing a big make over, I quite like this flat. Its just next to PIL house so I can safely let Jovel go over on her own since there is no road to cross. And its the same block as Irene - my wish to stay same blk with a friend. Few weeks back went to ballot for a unit next to Xiang Wei but didn't have the luck. Now can stay same blk as Irene also not bad. Haha. Its Irene I am worried about, wait u find me a nuisance. Haha. We were already saying if we stay same block, Verlene and Jovel will go each other house everyday, no need to leave the block just take lift. And they will be on the phone daily ranting away. Then the 2 Mommies will always go out leaving them 2 @ hm.

The 2nd flat belongs to a Chinese family. This is the 1 across a carpark. Facing a main road which make me think if it will be noisy during peak hours. The agent says that since its on the 17th floor, the noise will be minimal. But agent words, can trust ma? They wanna sell the house they of cos will say like that. This house flooring is ok - terrazzo. Only the kitchen and toilets need to be renovated. The room seems bigger and ceiling seems higher. Mommy says that its the same, just that the Indian family house very messy and got ceiling fan that's why got the illusion. Haha. The window grill need to be changed. Its still those 20 years ago type, those metal 1. This family upgrading to a 5 room flat, so the agent says if i buy the flat, the owner ask to be allowed to stay for another 2 months for the renovation @ their new house to complete. I think its ok, just that I hope they will have conscience to take care of the house for that 2 week and not have the thinking that since its already not their house no need to bother. And hopefully during that 2 months they will not go borrow loan sharks then move out and I become the victim of loan shark harassment. Saw so many this tyoe of news in the papers. Once it starts, its very hard to settle the issue.

I got no idea yet which 1 is a better choice. Irene's mommy advice me to slowly look around somemore. Surely got somemore people selling. And since I am not in the hurry I should take my time. I thinks thats true.

1st Mission for 2008 - Get my driving license. 2nd Mission - Get my own dwelling place.

Wish me Luck!!

I am writing this special blog exclusively for something I am very bothered and unhappy about. Its my aunties. They always take things for granted. Especially my mum. My Mum, always the cook, the caregiver, the 1 who will remember to buy prayer items, prayer dates and everything for my father's side family. She is those traditional type of woman who believes that all these are duties of a good daughter in law. Every time there's any occasion, like who's bd, grandparent's bd, ancestor death anniversary, she will be the one who have to put aside whatever is on her schedule and cook @ my grandma's place. Its not a small family. Any how there will be 30 people coming for lunch or dinner. When my auntie was diagnosed with cancer abt 3 years back, my mum was the 1 who always took leave to bring her to her chemo session. My family are taotist. They belive that the anulets from the temple will help to cure my auntie. So every friday my mum will, WITHOUT FAIL, go to the temple to collect the amulets for her. The temple starts the prayer @ night, so my mum will go @ 8 then come hm abt 11. This arrangement have also been going on for like a year plus. My Mum has got high blood pressure which means that if she don't sleep well @ night she will feel giddy and headache the next day. And she frequently has that because she worrys about everything. My grandplarent's PUB bill, my auntie's cancer, my brother in Doha.. a lot n a lot.. and when she told my cancer auntie she not feeling well, what she get? sacarstic remarks. She say my mum deserve it lah, who ask her don't sleep lah. And then she went on to say my mum leg pain walk with a limp still wanna go here go there ( She was talking about my mum going to those outing on Sat). She just says all these in front of me eh! I was so furious! I mean my mum have to cook dinner @ my grandma place everynight. Have to go to the temple every friday, what's wrong with her having some time for herself? My father married my mum, not buy her u know? She cannot go to her sister's celebration? What the hell? And my grandma got 3 daughter in law. Only my mum is working like slave for the family. I might as well spell it out here : My 3rd auntie only got time for her mum side of the family. Everytime ask her to bring my grandma or my auntie to the doctor, she will come out with all sorts of excuse, no time la, clean house la, kid go school la. And ask my uncle (her husband) to change his job from a well paying chef to a low income taxi driver just so that her own brothers can earn some extra income by shraring the taxi but not sharing the rent. And she make sure everyones knows that they are not to use her husband taxi for anything else unless we pay him. Not even allow the husband to send the sick sister (my cancer auntie) or my grandma to the hospital. She always say we take cab from the roadside also the same. Meaning? That even if we take my uncle cab she expect us to pay. But.. whenever HER mum need to go anywhere, my uncle is suppose to be @ their service. I mean do u have to have double standard until so much?! In the end my poor uncle have to secretly send my auntie or my grandma to see doctors without her knowing. Like thief like that. Really shit! My 4th auntie, her only responsibility is come, sit, watch tv, pack rice for her husband, eat, and go home. Own plate also don't wash. Every Sunday the same. So what she's working? My mum not tai tai ok? Everyone also got work but y is it my mum the only who got to slog even after work. and only to get thses kind of treant ment in the end? There are even more disgusting remarks my aunties have said of my mum but its going to be very very long story. My conclusion is that some people when they need u, they can call u mum call u dad. when they don't need u, u r just rubbish and rats. Really make me feel, is it worth it to treat people nice? When do they talk about behind yr back? Showing their gratitude? Nope, only taling bull shit. After much time thinking about it, I realise I know of another person who is like this also. This person is worst, use his bombastic english to hurl insults. Close friends will know who I talking about. At the end of the day, my Mum can still tell me what people wanna say. just let them, we know we have did what we should that's the most important. Is that true?

Very busy this weekend.. as expected. Friday I went to collect the bean sprout pillow I have ordered for Edison and Melody. Actually wanted to meet LiLing. But she like sian sian so I decide to go shopping for The 2 birthday presents and also to find some thing to wrap the bean sprout pillows. Its very hard to find a gift box suitable for the size. I was thinking if really cannot find then just wrap with flower plastic paper. In the end I found the box @ Minitoons Bishan. Went to find Janice too and she told me there's a colleague trying to woo her. Haha.. Good la.. time for her find a bf too. Walk around J8 to find a suitable present for the 2 boys. wanted to buy clothes but worry they cannot wear. Buy books also like not suitable for them. So in the end bought 2 Winnie Pooh basketball set. leg wanna break liao. Reach hm just in time for Supernatural 2nd season. I missed my Chost Whisperer last episode!! So sad. Next Day went to baby Edison's full month celebration, Edmund and Cheng Cheng bd celebration. I have been getting more and more impatient lately. Especially @ my mum. Sometimes I feel like she really testing my patient. Like on Saturday, she knows we have got 2 places to go. And I was all ready by 11 am. I waited and waited but no call from her. So i called her @ 12 noon. She says she just came back from the market and going to meet me @ my grandma's place. Then I waited and waited again. 1.30 I decide to go over to my grandma place. 1st. By the time I reach there already 2 pm. Joash was very sleepy already so i put him to sleep. Mum arrive @ 3PM!! It was already half a day gone. Feel like wasted half a day just wating for her. I mean if u not intending to go so early, then tell me lah. I got ready so soon then just wait and wait. Very fed up 1 leh. Then call and call don't answer phone. Got patient also call until angry. In the end left my grandma place @ 4 Pm. Stayed @ Jane's place also a while only. Then took cab to Aunty Judy's place. Pack everyhing but forget the camera, so wasted. Jovel enjoyed herself alot with her buddies Kimberly, Alicia and Emily. I think Joash also quite enjoy cos a lot of children playing around him. Sunday brought Joash to Sengkang, left him there then went Whitelink to help give opinions for Xiang Wee's actual day gown. Jia Yan and Gerald came too. The 2 Lovey Dovey couple. Like bee and honey. Appoinment 3 Pm but waited for quite sometime then got a big fitting room for her. Seeing her remind me of myself when I was preparing for my wedding. She so slim every gown also can wear. Fat people like me choice always very limited. In the end she really choose 1 with a very very long train. Her dream gown. haha.. Then went to have dinner @ Arnolds @ City Plaza. We saw that gown again! The evening Gown I wanted to buy for my Xiang's wedding. Waiting to buy when get pay.

Today went to HDB HUB with my aunty to settle her housing issue. She had divorced from her hubby after he went missing for the past 9 yrs. I had always wonder how my 2 cousins feel abt this matter. They seem quite unaffected by it but its very hard to tell from the outside. Even though the divorce should be between the 2 adults but the law doesn't make it that way. Now my cousin have to take up a HDB loan with my aunty to pay for the house and also to refund back the money into her dad's CPF account. And its like now its the time for her to save money in her CPF so she can get her own flat when she gets married next time. But due to the divorce she is now involved in such a committment. When she started working some years ago, she was alr starting to help the mum with the household expenses, took up hire purchase loan to buy computer for her scholl going brother etc. I can only hope that things will turn out smooth for my aunty family. And I changed the look of my blog and finally managed to hide past posts. I was so happy when i was able to do that because I have been trying for a whole day. Now blogger is much easier to navigate and changing the template is such a breeze. Daphane and Qian Hui got their PSLE results today. My family very funny. Almost every year we have 2 kids @ the same level. Which means that we always have 2 new babies in our family. Big family always have this kind of conincidence I think. Both of them got the same result. So nothing to compare. Just disccused with the next door travel agency boss about sharing an office space @ Balestier Plaza. Ruby Plaza have been en-bloc so we are all looking for a place to move. Sharing the office means cutting cost and since I only need a small office table space me and boss decide to share the tendency with the travel agent. But I don;t really mind since its just like 2 bus stop away still very convienent. And Balestier Plaza got more makan choices, surrounded by food stalls. HAHA.. Finally don't have to eat the same thing everyday.

I have started a new blog.. Cos of Irene. I saw her blog. This Mommy is fantastic with her fingers!! She capture and preserve her memories and her 2 pretty girls chilhood so creatively!! Then I show her my old blog and she encourage me to start a new blog. Hahah.. Hmm.. Will I be a determine (or rather self disciline) enoough to blog regularly? We shall see. Anyway, to start it off, let's take a look @ events of 2007 : Jovel had her named changed. She's now offcially Jovel Xanthe David. She had graduated from Kindergarten and will be entering PCPS next year. Wasn't easy to get her in. Got in through balloting. At the monet when her name was annouced I felt like i just won 6 million Toto!! Really so happy n excited. She had improved a lot in her work. Was not able to read a lots of words when she was in the childcare @ AMK. Thanks to many ppl. The scchool teacher (Kris), my in laws etc.. My Great Grandmother passed away in July at the age of 93. She was a really kind and big hearted person. No matter what happen in the family, she will always open her door to anyone. She treat all of us the same, children, stepchildren all make no difference to her. Her funeral was a party for us. For the Chinese if u can live enough to see yr 4th generation and above, you are considered very lucky and "hao ming" (good life). We wear a patch of colour coded cloth on out shoulder to show our generation. I am the Great Grand child so my colour is Green. Jovel is the 5th generation as the Great Great Grandchild so she wear Pink. All the candles used @ the funeral were Red as it is a happy event that Great Grandma had lived a ripe age. I celebrated my 1st wedding anniversary. 27/05/07. We did not do anything much. Just went on to a dinner cruise. Its actually a old type of Junk to replicate the Cheng Ho. Had a buffet dinner on board. Saw the fire works of Song Of The Sea performace. Welcomed 3 babies to the world. The 1st baby girl,Sarah, was borned to a very old friend of mine ,Sally. We use to stay @ the blk 535 at AMK . We went to the same primary school too with Serena.But after i shifted to Seng Kang and also because we went to different secondary school we lost contact. Then we found each other again after abt 10 yrs on Friendster. Exchanged MSN and start talking online. From there we visited each other. So I was there when baby Sarah arrived. Although she was born premature (30 weeks) she was a strong baby. Now She's already 3 mths old. 2nd baby is my aunty's 1st baby boy, Edison. Born just 1 day after Joash 1st birthday. He's so cute. Aunty had a very fast labour too. 5 hrs for 1st timer. I took 17 hrs to give birth to Jovel and 13 hrs for Joash. 3RD is baby Melody. 4th baby to my ex colleague, Jasmine. Born just 1 week after Edison. She's got Lots of hair. Look like her daddy. So happy for Jasmine cos she's already a Gao Lin Chan Fu. Admire her bravery. Its not easy for her. Work and family caused her a lot of stress but on the hand she got to take good care of herself. Applause!!! Lost 1 Baby. I had a miscarriage again. The 1st time was before I had Joash. This time it happen on Mid Authem Festival. I brought the 2 kids to my great grandma place for some prayer and also celebrate the festival. I did not feel anything until when i was in my uncle car's on my way home @10 plus, i felt like something coming out from below. I thought I leaked some urine when i sneezed. But when I got hm, I was so shocked to see my undies all bloody. Fil quickly sent me to Mt E while I called Dr Lim. When we got to the A&E, Dr Lim advice not to do a scan @ the A&E dept cos its going to cost us $800 plus. So he gave me a jab, admitted me and then sent me to his clinic 1st thing the next morning to do the scan. The waterbag was in an like elongated. So he gave me another jab and then sent me back to the ward for complete bed rest. The 2nd day we did the scan again and this time the waterbag has reduced a lot in size. Dr Lim was quite convinced that its a natural miscarriage. I was kind of ready for this news. Cried a bit. Maybe this baby knows I don't have the full ability to support all 3 of them. I just want my 2 angels in heaven to know that they are never forgotten. In my heart, I will always remember that have had them before. These are just some of the major events I can remember for now.. Can't possible have everything here at 1 go. haha. Hope you enjoy my post!